Saturday, 1 December 1883

Am I not engaged in a fool's errand? Who will give me back my finest years, spent... perhaps in vain?

But there is a good answer to these doubts of my vulgar self: I truly had nothing better to do; everywhere else, living as others do, I should have suffered too much... And besides, I should not have attained the moral development that renders me a superiority so very embarrassing... For myself. Stendhal at least had known one or two beings capable of understanding him, whereas I — it is frightening; everyone is flat, and those I took for people of intelligence seem to me stupid. Have I become what they call a misunderstood being? No — but all the same... It does seem to me that I have every right to be astonished and displeased when people think of me things of which I am incapable and which would wound my dignity, my delicacy, my very elegance...

For instance, when Julian... someone comes to tell him that on the day of the prizes vote (last June) there was in the waiting crowd a very agitated young blonde woman who could not keep still, her hair blowing in the wind — and that he supposes it was me!! I appeal to anyone at all!

I ask you! It seems to me a perfectly mad thing to suppose that I should have no shame in going there to wait for the result, to show myself... But it admits of no refutation!

Well — what does that prove? It proves that Julian, who has finesse for all that, judges me by [Words blackened: the common women] of his studio — the Durands, the Balandards — and even among those, above all when they are artists... Even if one did go to wait for the vote at the door of the Salon, or in some hall — for I do not know where it takes place — one would have the modesty to keep still... It seems to me that even had I been an Amélie or a Durand, ignorant of deportment and of chic, I should not have gone there — out of... a perfectly natural feeling, in short!

Well — that proves that Julian is not a man of intelligence... though he has some all the same. But it does not prove that I am misunderstood. Take Émile Bastien-Lepage: he judges me justly, perhaps (without ulterior motive and without admiration) — and then who else? Tony Robert-Fleury as well. As for society people... I am correct. Let us come back to intelligent people... But I know none.

And whom do I see often? Why — Julian, Tony, a Bastien; the others see me too little, and besides...

Decidedly this Julian does not see me rightly — and yet he is not stupid... It comes perhaps of his being used to a bohemian world, and of his having known me in his studio with the manners of a child who thinks everything permitted her and who was... But all that is past. And there — more ink again.

The Canroberts judge me well — and who else? Alice? but that does not count. Nor Bojidar either: he is stupid, a liar, and bad.

Come now, I am not a misunderstood creature (I should be sorry to be one); only I know nobody...

Do you see anyone who would understand me entirely — before whom I could say everything... who would understand it all, and in whose talk I should recognise my own thoughts... Well, my girl, that would be love...

Perhaps so; but without going so far — people who would merely judge you in an intelligent fashion, and with whom one could talk: that would already be very agreeable... and I know none... The only one was Julian, and now I find him more and more obtuse... He is irritating even when he begins those interminable teasings that strike wide of the mark, above all in questions of art; he does not understand that I see clearly and that I mean to succeed; he thinks me infatuated with myself...

Well — in sum he is still my confidant, at intervals. As for a perfect equality of feeling — that does not exist unless one is in love, in which case it is love that works miracles.

And yet is it not, on the contrary, this perfect equality that gives rise to Love?

The soul-mate. I believe that image, so much abused, is perfectly apt. Well — where is this soul? Someone whose tip of the ear one would never glimpse. [Words blackened: I have not yet] perceived it in Jules Bastien-Lepage — but if I see him five or six times... I shall certainly discover...

Not a word, not a glance must be out of accord with the idea I have formed of him...

It is not that I demand the unfindable perfection of a being with nothing human about him — but I require that his failings seem to me interesting failings and not demolish him in my eyes. Matching the dream — not the banal dream of impossible divinities, but in any case that everything about him please me... And that I not suddenly discover some stupid corner, or flat, or insufficient, or silly, or petty, or false, or self-interested; even the smallest of such blemishes is enough to destroy everything.

Notes

Le bout de l'oreille: "the tip of the ear" — idiomatic for a glimpse of some hidden defect or true nature peeking through.